My personal philosophy on trusting people was if they let me down twice I would give them second chances but on the third time they were put on the untrustworthy list.
Reality was no body never let me down less than three times. That made me very lonely because I trusted no one.
Forgiveness is not justified. The person does not deserve to be let loose from their debts. But I do it anyway because Jesus forgave me.
Jesus forgave me more than I am being asked to forgive. He forgave me for puting nails into HIs hands and feet. He forgave me for whipping His back. He forgives me for mistreating the ones He loves.
Because I don’t trust them is not a good reason compared to because I want to live in His kingdom and nurture His Spirit in me instead of quenching it.
Father, I want Your righteousness and I can’t do it. Give me Your Spirit to empower me to do Your will. I forgive everyone, help me with the difficult ones that I haven’t let go of yet. You can, I can’t without You.
The Jesus speaks about this in the parable of the unforgiving servant:
Matt 18:21-35 (KJ2000) ” 21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? 22 Jesus said unto him, I say not unto you, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. 23 Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, who would take account of his servants. 24 And when he had begun the reckoning, one was brought unto him, who owed him ten thousand talents. 25 But since he had nothing to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26 The servant therefore fell down, and worshiped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay you all. 27 Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and released him, and forgave him the debt. 28 But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellow servants, who owed him a hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me what you owe. 29 And his fellow servant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay you all. 30 And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. 31 So when his fellow servants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. 32 Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O you wicked servant, I forgave you all that debt, because you desired me: 33 Should not you also have had compassion on your fellow servant, even as I had pity on you? 34 And his lord was angry, and delivered him to the jailers, till he should pay all that was due unto him. 35 So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if you from your hearts forgive not everyone his brother their trespasses.”
The parable is important. I can know that I am supposed to forgive many times and still harbor unforgiveness. But the parable moves past my rationalizations and brings me to understand the deep deep forgiveness that I have been given by Jesus.